Article by: MaryEllen | Monday, December 10, 2018

By MaryEllen Tribby

Last week, Mikaela my oldest, graduated from high school. It was a bittersweet day and as a proud mama not quite ready to let her go but knowing I must, I sat in the audience and cheered.

But I cheered not just for Mikaela.

I cheered for Kerigan. And for Ashley. And Jordon. And Lucy.

Actually I cheered fo every kid that I met through Mikaela. You see over the past 13 years of school, Mikaela has built her own incredible community of friends.

They are the ones who played softball with her every weekend.

The ones who went to see One Direction in Miami.

The ones who laughed and cried and celebrated with her.

Later, reflecting on graduation, I could not help but note the direct correlation to business. In fact, Mikaela’s community of friends reminded me of one of the biggest mistakes online businesses make.

Bigger Isn’t ALWAYS Better

You hear these terms and read these subject lines all the time in the Internet marketing industry:

List Building on Steroids
Massive List Growth
Mega List Building
Build a List of 100,000 Names While You Sleep

But what the “IM” rock star guru often forgets to tell you is that the number of names you have shouldn’t be your top priority.

The fact is, you can have a list of ten million names… But if they aren’t responding to your offers, they are worth nothing to you.

You see, a name on your list only counts if it is responsive.

So how do you get the people on your list to be responsive?

First of all, you need to stop seeing your list members as e-mail addresses… and realize that behind each name is a real live person.

Then you must make sure that you engage, enlighten, entertain, educate and meet the needs of your list.

When you manage to achieve all five, you’ll have the makings of a community. A group of like-minded people with similar challenges, wants, needs, likes, and dislikes.

Until you understand this, all the PPC ads, joint ventures, search engine marketing, media buys, direct mail messages, banner ads, and dedicated e-mails in the world will not do you one bit of good.

First Things First!

Before you go out and spend two grand on the latest “killer” course, you need to master…

The 10 Core Principles of Building a Community

1) Decide on your distribution channel(s): Before people join your community, they need to hear from you. You can create a blog, a newsletter, videos, webinars, teleconferences, membership websites, and/or a magazine to get your message out to the people you are trying to connect with.

2) Give Value: Too many entrepreneurs are afraid to give away valuable information. Instead they give away useless fluff. Then they don’t understand why “their community” will not buy their products! Show that you are a “giver” first and the sales will follow.

3) Say It Loud/Say It Proud: Always take a stand. Don’t vacillate on issues. Make your heroes and enemies well-known. And, of course, make sure you can state your mission in your sleep.

4) Be Authentic: I know “authenticity” seems like such a buzzword lately… but you have to be true to who you are. Don’t try to be your competitor, your best friend, or the person your mother wants you to be. Be you. If your message is not coming from your heart, your community will sense that you’re being insincere. And your message will not be effective.

5) Create Disciples: A little TLC goes a long way. When you see someone in your community who needs special attention, give it to her. Over-deliver on EVERY promise you make. And always be willing to refund someone’s money – even if he asks for it once the refund period has ended.

6) R-E-S-P-E-C-T: Do not send promotions or content to your community unless you believe in what you’re sending. Make sure you have checked out every product and person BEFORE you introduce them to your community.

7) Repetition: Speaking with your community once every four months just doesn’t cut it. I’m not saying you have to send out an e-newsletter every day. But keep in mind that the more value you give your community, the more committed to you they will be.

8) Walk the Walk: Your commitment to your community and cause should show with every step you take. Don’t say one thing and do another.

9) Perfection Is Overrated (and in most cases unobtainable): Don’t be afraid to show your flaws. We are all human. We all have the same 24 hours in a day. Sometimes things don’t get done. Sometimes things fall through. Sometimes we make mistakes. When those things happen, don’t try to hide the fact. Explain it and move on.

10) Connect Others Freely: Two heads are better than one and three are better than two. If you realize that one of your connections will make a huge difference in someone else’s life, make the introduction without expecting anything in return.

Adhere to these principles and you won’t just have a list of “names” to market to. You’ll have hordes of fans screaming to get their hands on everything you have to offer.

Seth Godin calls it a “tribe.” Dan Kennedy calls it a “herd.” I like the good old-fashioned term “community.” Whatever you chose to call it, realize how powerful it is to have this collective of like-minded people all devoted to YOU and YOUR message. Never forget that your group invests their time, money, and faith in you. A “list” of “e-mail addresses” can’t do that. But real live people can.

If you are ready to start building your community and want to do it as successfully as possible… and if you don’t mind getting specific, actionable advice from someone who has built communities better than most businesspeople for over a quarter of a century (hint: me!)… check out this letter now.